你屬於哪一家
這是字根本身：gentīlis 講的就是同一個家族。
adjective · C2
Belonging to, or typical of, families with a high social position, especially old families with land, a large house and a well-known name.
上流社會的；出身門第的
核心畫面
One way to hold this word: it starts as an address, not a compliment. It says which family you belong to — the old name, the land, the large quiet house. From that starting point it travels along one line. First it stops being about the family and becomes about what growing up in such a family leaves on a person: the soft voice, the small movements, the careful words. Then, once anyone can learn those movements, the word turns slightly and starts pointing at the learning itself — at someone keeping up an appearance. Same three steps, same word: where you are from, how that taught you to behave, and how visible the effort is.
可以想成：這個字一開始是在報出身，不是在誇人。它說的是你屬於哪一家——老姓氏、田產、安靜的大房子。從這裡開始，它沿著…更多收起
可以想成：這個字一開始是在報出身，不是在誇人。它說的是你屬於哪一家——老姓氏、田產、安靜的大房子。從這裡開始，它沿著一條線往前走。第一步，它不再講家族，改講在那樣的家裡長大會留下什麼：輕聲、小動作、講究的用字。第二步，既然這些舉止人人學得來，這個字就微微一轉，開始指向那份「學」——指向一個努力維持樣子的人。同一個字走了三步：你從哪裡來、那裡把你教成什麼樣、以及那份用力有多明顯。From the word’s history
Borrowed from French gentil, from Latin gentīlis 'of or belonging to the same family or clan', built on gēns 'clan, family'. A doublet of gentle and gentile.
借自法文 gentil，源自拉丁文 gentīlis（屬於同一個家族、同一個氏族的），字根是 gēns（氏族、家族）。英文的 gentle、gentile 跟它同源。
Wiktionary entry for genteel (packet etymology_text): 'Borrowed from French gentil, from Latin gentīlis … from gēns … Doublet of gentle, gentile, and jaunty.'
Two branches
那樣的出身教出來的舉止
焦點從家族移到那個家族把人教成什麼樣；再往前一小步，就變成在看那份用力本身。
adjective · C2
Polite, gentle and careful in the way you speak, move or behave, in a way that looks well brought up.
斯文有禮的；舉止優雅的