This is the adjective from self-pity: full of feeling sorry for yourself, and showing it. It describes people and also the things they produce — a self-pitying tone, a self-pitying letter, a self-pitying song, self-pitying nonsense.

This is the adjective from self-pity這是self-pity的形容詞: full of feeling sorry for yourself滿是替自己感到難過, and showing it而且表現出來。It它 describes people可以形容人 and also the things they produce也可以形容人做出來的東西 — a self-pitying tone自憐的語氣, a self-pitying letter自憐的信, a self-pitying song自憐的歌, self-pitying nonsense自憐式的廢話。

In fact it attaches to voices and writing more often than you might expect, because the word is usually about how something SOUNDS: the long sigh, the 'nobody ever helps me', the story told so that you will feel bad for the teller. It is always disapproving, and it is a real put-down.

In fact事實上 it attaches to voices and writing more often than you might expect它用在語氣和文字上，比你想的還常見, because the word is usually about how something SOUNDS因為這個字通常講的是某個東西聽起來怎樣: the long sigh長長的嘆氣, the 'nobody ever helps me'「都沒有人幫我」這種話, the story told so that you will feel bad for the teller講故事講到讓你替說故事的人難過。It它 is always disapproving一定帶著不贊同, and it is a real put-down而且是真正在貶低人。

Two useful patterns. First, it very often turns up in denials — 'I don't want to sound self-pitying, but…' — because English speakers are so worried about seeming that way that they say this before complaining. Learning that phrase alone will make you sound natural.

Two useful patterns兩個實用的用法模式。First第一, it very often turns up in denials它很常出現在否認句裡 — 'I don't want to sound self-pitying, but…'「我不想聽起來很自憐，可是⋯」 — because English speakers are so worried about seeming that way因為英語使用者太擔心聽起來像那樣 that they say this before complaining所以會先講這句再抱怨。Learning that phrase alone光是學會這句話 will make you sound natural就能讓你聽起來很自然。

Second, it pairs with 'a bit', 'slightly', 'so' — 'I got a bit self-pitying last night'.

Second第二, it pairs with 'a bit', 'slightly', 'so'它會搭配「a bit」、「slightly」、「so」 — 'I got a bit self-pitying last night'「我昨晚有點自憐」。

Used about yourself, and in the past, it becomes gentle and even funny; used about another person, to their face, it is sharp. Same word, and the difference is only who it points at.

Used about yourself用在自己身上, and in the past而且是講過去的事, it becomes gentle and even funny就會變得溫和甚至好笑; used about another person用在別人身上, to their face當面說, it is sharp就會很尖銳。Same word同一個字, and the difference is only who it points at差別只在於它指向誰。