A disarming smile, question, or bit of honesty makes you feel less angry, less ready to judge, and a little more friendly. Nobody has taken a gun from your hands; they have taken the fight out of you.

A disarming smile, question, or bit of honesty makes you feel less angry, less ready to judge, and a little more friendly disarming 的微笑、問題，或一點誠實，會讓你比較不生氣、比較不想批判，也變得比較友善一點。Nobody has taken a gun from your hands沒有人真的從你手上拿走一把槍; they have taken the fight out of you他們是把你心裡的火氣拿走了。

It is almost always a compliment: you did not mean to like them, and then you did. People use it of charm, of a joke that arrives at the right second, or of someone who admits a fault so plainly that you cannot keep scolding.

It is almost always a compliment這幾乎一定是個稱讚: you did not mean to like them, and then you did你本來不打算喜歡他們，結果還是喜歡上了。People use it of charm, of a joke that arrives at the right second人們會用來形容一種魅力，或是一個抓對時機的笑話, or of someone who admits a fault so plainly that you cannot keep scolding或是形容一個人坦白認錯到讓你罵不下去。

Though actually, it can also make you a little uneasy, because you can feel yourself being won over. In careful writing the old military picture is still there — to disarm is to take weapons away — but this everyday sense is about lowering your guard, not about armies.

Though actually不過其實, it can also make you a little uneasy它也可能讓你有點不安, because you can feel yourself being won over因為你能感覺到自己正在被說服、被拉攏。In careful writing在講究的文章裡 the old military picture is still there那個古老的軍事畫面還在 — to disarm is to take weapons away disarm 原本是「解除武裝」的意思 — but this everyday sense is about lowering your guard, not about armies但這個日常用法講的是放下戒心，跟軍隊沒關係。