Co-dependence (also written codependence, and often called codependency) is a way of being close to someone that helpers and doctors worry about.

Co-dependenceco-dependence（共依附，also written codependence也拼成 codependence，and often called codependency常被稱作 codependency）is a way of being close to someone是一種和某人親近的方式 that helpers and doctors worry about是助人工作者和醫生會擔心的那種。

A co-dependent person feels they cannot be happy or “all right” unless another person is all right — especially someone with a drink problem, a drug problem, or a big emotional need. So they spend their strength keeping that person going: covering for them, fixing their mess, putting their own needs last.

A co-dependent personco-dependent 的人 feels they cannot be happy or "all right"會覺得自己沒辦法快樂或「沒事」 unless another person is all right除非另一個人「沒事」——especially someone with a drink problem, a drug problem, or a big emotional need尤其當那個人有酒癮、毒癮，或很大的情感需求時。So they spend their strength keeping that person going於是他們把力氣都花在讓那個人撐下去：covering for them, fixing their mess, putting their own needs last幫他掩護、幫他收拾爛攤子，把自己的需求擺在最後。

From the outside it can look like kindness. Though actually the kindness has got stuck: the helper needs to be needed, and the other person never has to stand on their own.

From the outside it can look like kindness從外面看，這可能像是善良。Though actually the kindness has got stuck不過其實這份善良卡住了：the helper needs to be needed幫忙的人需要「被需要」，and the other person never has to stand on their own而另一個人卻永遠不用學會自己站起來。

The word grew in the late twentieth century around groups that helped families of alcoholics. It is a psychology word, not everyday chat, and people sometimes throw it at any close couple, which stretches it.

The word grew in the late twentieth century這個詞是二十世紀後期發展出來的，around groups that helped families of alcoholics在幫助酒癮者家屬的團體裡。It is a psychology word, not everyday chat它是心理學的詞彙，不是日常聊天會用的，and people sometimes throw it at any close couple但有人會把它套用在任何親密的伴侶身上，which stretches it這樣就把它的意思用得太寬了。

Healthy love is two people who can also be themselves; co-dependence is when “we” has eaten “I”.

Healthy love is two people who can also be themselves健康的愛，是兩個人也還能做自己；co-dependence is when "we" has eaten "I"co-dependence 則是「我們」把「我」吃掉了的狀態。